After a recent post on Facebook, several thoughts can flooding through my mind. The article was about .. When as an adult losing a loved one can make you feel orphaned, abandon, and alone. I see myself as being “lucky”, when you might think is pretty wired when you ready further.
My first dealing with a loved one’s transition to the next life was when I was 7. As a rural kid, dealing with death was always a part of life, but it affects you differently when it’s your family. When I was born I had 8 grand and great grandparents. All of them had passed into the next life by the time I turned old enough to get into a bar.
It wasn’t until I was in my late twenties, while listening to an amazing motivational speaker, that I learned some simple “secrets” to make dealing with loss bit more bearable.
Why do we wait until someone is gone to tell them how great they are. It’s really a simple question. We all have wonderful things to share at a memorial, or even in an obituary, but why don’t we share those same memories, thoughts and love with someone before they are gone. Since that time, I’ve tried really hard to let those around me know how much they really mean to me. I’ve tried to “eulogize the living.
Why do we put the important things off to tomorrow. None of us really know if we will have a tomorrow. Car accidents, falls, strokes, heart atacks, and the list goes on, can happen at any moment, so we may not have a tomorrow. Some then I’ve tried to work, and to make sure those that mean the most to me know how important they are. Not only through words, but with my actions also. We all have a busy schedule, but do we stop and take the time for our loved ones. I’ve tried to stop and take that time, even it’s only a few moments. After all, I’m really not positive that I’ll have the chance tomorrow.